The Friend Friday group started the discussion of showcasing the negative on our blogs on our newly founded Google Group.
Basically we were talking about certain blogs that either take photos of unsuspecting people in “bad” outfits, or take photos of other bloggers and make fun of them.
Since this is a very serious topic with varying opinions, I think it’ll be pretty interesting.
1. Do you post pictures on your blog, or would you if the opportunity came along, of people with poor fashion/beauty sense?
No and no. My opinion of what is “fashion” or “beauty” is different than everyone else, as should be evident from last week’s Friend Friday. Since we all perceive the negative in different ways, me making fun of something someone else is wearing isn’t really fair, nor it is what I want to do with my blog. So while I might get a giggle out of someone wearing PJs to the grocery store, I’m not going to highlight it on my blog.
If someone sent me a photo of themselves and asked me to give them some ideas how to improve/update on their outfit, I wouldn’t make it a post, unless they specifically requested it. I am more than happy to give someone tips or ideas of ways to improve upon an outfit, but I’m only going to do it if they ask.
I’ve seen photos on other blogs where I’ve thought to myself “wow, her skirt is way too short” or “her eye-makeup is awful,” but I keep those opinions to myself. I’m not to “out” people because they don’t fit into my standard of beauty or fashion. To each his/her own.
2. Do you read any blogs that highlight the bad? Why?
Yes. I subscribe to Poorly Dressed People. Before you tell me that it contradicts what I just said in the answer to number one, let me explain. I view PDP like LOL Cats for people. The majority of the people on that site sent in the photo of themselves, knowing it was funny. Plus, about 85% of the photos look like they’re from Halloween or costume parties, which makes it ever funnier. I don’t get a laugh out of the captions making fun of someone’s size or weight, but I get a kick out of the captions pointing out the middle-aged man in fairy wings and a tulle skirt, because that’s not what the “normal” perception of a middle-aged man is. That’s why I find it funny. Heck, I’m sure people have laughed at why I’m wearing because it’s not “normal.”
3. Should these bloggers get permission to post the pictures from the subject in the same way the street-style blogs do?
Yes. If someone thought I was dressed poorly (which, let’s face it, has happened to all of us), I wouldn’t want them to just take my photo, post it online and make fun of it. I’d rather they ask my permission. I wouldn’t agree, but at least they asked!
4. As human beings we are fascinated with disasters – of all sorts – why do you think that is? How to the blogs/websites that highlight the negative thrive?
I think we, as humans, have the odd desire to watch someone else fail. Even if it’s for something as stupid as how they dressed that day. If the majority of the world can’t get behind they outfit they’re wearing, it means they fail and we win. I think blogs that highlight the negative- any negative- thrive because people WANT to see someone else failing. That’s why gossip magazines and blogs (like Perez Hilton) are popular. Sure, the writing might be funny, but that’s not what you want to see. You want to see someone else who looks bad/broke up with the boyfriend/had a shitty day because it makes you feel a little bit better about yourself.
5. For many, fashion is subjective. Do you think, there can be anything that is objectively bad in the fashion world?
Oddly, no. I have a feeling that the person wearing those jeans/shoes/thong/fairly wings actually LIKES what they’re wearing. They probably think we’re all dressed as idiots. Fashion IS subjective. That’s the only thing that pisses me off about sites like this- they’re pushing THEIR opinion about what’s right and fashionable on the reader. But, then again, aren’t we doing that as style bloggers? Albeit in a different way, but it’s the same general idea.
Additionally, I wanted to quickly talk about something that popped up in our FBFF Google Group about this topic. Someone mentioned that they believed the writers of the blogs that make fun of other people and bloggers “are probably the same people who got made fun of in high school.” As someone who was ridiculed, made fun of, teased and ignored in high school, middle school and elementary school, I have to greatly disagree.
I know what it feels like to be made fun of, not just behind my back, but to my face. I’ve had people tell me how much they hate me, how much of a waste of space I am. I know what it feels like to walk into a room, only to have it fall silent because they were just talking about you. I’ve had people tell me how ugly I was, to my face, behind my back and let me assure you; it hurts more than anything you can imagine. I’ve run home from the bus, to my room and cried. I’ve been befriended, only to be stabbed in the back later when that person had gained my trust and spread rumors around. Believe me, I’ve lived through a lot of crap.
Perhaps the person who wrote that comment has had a different experience with bullies and with those others being teased. Perhaps they were one of the popular kids doing the teasing. As a “nerd” and knowing how much those comments hurt, why would it be assumed that those tormented in high school would be the writers?
Since I graduated high school, I’ve gone to college, even graduating early. I’m married, happy and successful. I do not plan to attend ANY of my high school reunions because I do not want to see most people I went to school with because it wasn’t a happy time for me. I still talk to a few people I went to school with, and I adore them. But a lot of people didn’t like me, I didn’t like them and there is no reason to see them again. Just because they made fun of me eight years ago gives me no right to make fun of others now.
I’m not trying to defend the writers of these blogs, but I’m trying to defend others that were teased in school, because I believe that offhand comment was extremely judgmental and a little rude.
PS- to read other opinions on this heavy topic, head over to Modlychic!